Imagine having full ejaculation control. You can make love with your partner as long as you want. You can fuck her as hard as you want, as long as you want, in any position you want, without cumming, unless you wanted to. Maybe you can already last for quite a while but would like to be able to keep going for hours. Maybe your sessions, from the moment of penetration onwards, last the average amount of time; five to seven minutes, and going for 15 plus sounds awesome. In the past I did some of the things that you might find in other advice columns on how to last longer in bed — wore condoms to reduce sensitivity, used alcohol to relax, jacked off before a big date, tried to think about unsexy things like my grandmother naked, etc.
Tantric Ejaculation Control: Learn to Cum When *You* Want To
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. Save Your Sex Life. As a couples and sex therapist in private practice, I am often astonished at how many men and couples come to see me trying to fix premature ejaculation. Many men suffer with shame and embarrassment about feeling that they ejaculate too quickly, leading them to have anxiety about sex and their performance.
It sounds like you're really struggling with these expectations you have for yourself. The average time it takes someone with a penis to ejaculate once vaginal intercourse starts is just shy of around six minutes. Now, that's just an average figure, and the numbers here can vary greatly depending on a lot of factors, including age and you can read more on that here if you're interested. And for much younger people, or sexually inexperienced people, ejaculation often happens more quickly than that. If you are still concerned about this from a medical standpoint, there's no harm in talking this over with a doctor and getting checked out, of course.